Signs of a Soul Tie — And How to Release One That's Hurting You
Some connections end on paper and refuse to end in your body. The texts have stopped. The relationship is officially over. And yet — you can still feel him. Months later. Sometimes years.
That's a soul tie. And once you know what it is, you can finally release it.
What a soul tie actually is
A soul tie is a strong energetic bond formed between two souls through intense emotional, sexual, or spiritual connection. They aren't inherently bad — soulmates and twin flames form healthy soul ties all the time.
The painful kind is a tie to someone who is no longer in your life (or no longer safe in your life) — but whose energetic presence still lives in your nervous system.
The signs of an active soul tie
1. You can still feel him even after long silences — physically, in your chest 2. You dream of him repeatedly, even when you haven't thought about him during the day 3. Other relationships feel pale or impossible to invest in 4. You hear his voice in your head responding to your life 5. Sex with anyone else feels disconnected, even when you like the person 6. You react emotionally to news about him as if you're still together 7. You can sense when something is happening with him from miles away 8. Random objects, songs, or smells flood you with him at the worst times 9. You feel a physical pulling sensation toward him — sometimes for no reason 10. Years pass and the cord still doesn't fully cool
If you're nodding through most of these — yes, there's still a tie.
Why soul ties form
- intense emotional vulnerability
- shared spiritual or religious experiences
- significant sexual intimacy
- trauma shared together
- karmic agreements made before this lifetime
- intense unfinished business
Soul ties aren't always proof of love. Sometimes they're proof of how much of yourself you handed over.
When a soul tie is healthy
- you feel each other warmly across distance
- the tie supports both of your lives
- the connection grows you, doesn't drain you
- you'd consciously choose it again
When a soul tie is unhealthy — it's the opposite of all four.
How to release a soul tie (the trusted way)
Forget what the internet sells you about candles, baths, and a single ritual. Soul tie work is layered, and it actually moves the energy. Here's the trusted process.
1. Acknowledge the tie out loud. Naming the cord is the first cut. "There is an energetic tie between me and ___ and I am ready to release what is no longer mine to carry."
2. Stop feeding it. Every check of his social media, every replayed conversation, every "what if he..." reopens the wound. Energy reads the watching.
3. Return what isn't yours. Energetically, much of what you're feeling isn't even your weight — it's his unprocessed emotion lodged in your field. Visualize handing it back, with love, and asking yours to return to you.
4. Cord-cutting practice. Sit quietly. See the cord between you. Notice where it attaches in your body. Cut it gently — not with rage, with completion. Do this nightly for a week, then once a week, then as needed.
5. Reclaim the energy. The cord cut isn't enough — you have to fill the space. Pour energy back into your own life. Your body. Your home. Your future. The void is what tempts the tie to reform.
6. Address the lesson. A soul tie that won't release usually has a lesson still unintegrated. What did this teach me about how I love? What did this teach me about how I abandon myself? What did this teach me about what I will and won't accept again?
Once the lesson lands, the cord softens almost on its own.
7. Get support. Some ties are too deep to release alone. A psychic or energy worker can locate the cord, name where it's attached, and help cut it with you. It often takes one session of trusted witnessing to do what months of solo work couldn't.
What NOT to do
- pay anyone for a "binding" or "spell" — these reinforce ties, they don't release them
- contact him to "get closure" (closure is something you give yourself, not get from him)
- numb it with another relationship before processing it
- shame yourself for how long it's taking
How long it takes
Varies wildly. For a short relationship — sometimes weeks. For a deep, multi-year tie — sometimes a year or more. For a karmic or twin connection — sometimes the cord softens but doesn't fully dissolve in this lifetime.
That's okay. The goal isn't erasing him. The goal is taking yourself back.
When to book a reading
If the tie has been active for more than a year and nothing you've tried has fully released it, a reading on the connection can name exactly where the cord is attached, what it's still feeding on, and the specific work that finally cuts it.
You don't have to drag him through every chapter of the rest of your life. You're allowed to be the one who gets to live freely on the other side.
Written by Mary
Mary is a trusted relationship psychic and tarot reader with over 15 years of experience helping women navigate the complexities of love, twin flame connections, and breakup recovery. Her readings are known for their clarity, empathy, and practical guidance.
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